8 Powerful Lessons I Have Learned from a Year of Mexican Adventures

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Last year, I uprooted my life and moved to Mexico, following my inner compass. I had reasons far and wide for doing so, namely to show my 6-year old daughter life, adventure, difference, and beauty. I wanted to teach her things she would never learn in textbooks. I wanted to teach myself things I would never learn in the suburbs. I wanted to share love, happiness, experiences, and tiny magical moments with my baby before she was too old and slipped out of my reach, before she cared about cell phones and Olive Garden, when it was still ok to rip her away from the world she was accustomed to, at the age she could be forever affected and incredibly impacted by the world outside her door. I wanted to share time with her, and I wanted to watch her thrive and flourish in a different setting, with space to be herself, explore freedom, live with nature, and mostly, to see that hopes and dreams can come true.

What I ended up learning along our adventure is indescribable, unforgettable, and amazingly special, for both of us. I am so grateful for my dreams to dream up such adventures, and to my inner compass to guiding me and keeping me safe. I am thankful to all of my friends near and far, old and new,  who have been a part of this adventure, in support, interest, unconditional love, happy tears, motivational words, and belief in my strength, so that no matter where we were, I never felt far from home. Maybe I should write a book. I don’t know. For now I am thankful in my heart and mind, for my balls, my renewed relationship with my daughter, my refreshed soul from Caribbean waters and sunshine, acquired strength from unimaginable challenges, and the tiny pockets of life that I have realized from this, that were hidden in the sand, that I have grown to recognize and embrace. The world is a different place now.  

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8 Powerful Lessons I Have Learned from a Year of Mexican Adventures

1. Strength. And Trusting Yourself. Like the cliché, ‘Life begins at the end of our comfort zone.” We are so much stronger than we know. Only when this is experienced in such raw form do we clearly understand the strength we possess to make correct decisions, keep ourselves safe, overcome fear, and just do it. Challenge is healthy. It keeps us aware, smart, and resourceful. It keeps life interesting, and shows us who we are and what we are made of. It keeps us from giving up. On a dark, rainy night in the Cozumelenian jungle. Petrified of intruders and animals, protecting my baby. Wanting to hop the next flight, wanting to run from fear. Or on a day that strips your 2 seconds left of coping skills, when the stick shift breaks down at night and you are lost on an island, when you are sick of sweating from the blazing sun, when no one will convert your money, you cant make a phone call, no one understands that you want medicine for your baby’s fever, your bank account is overdrawn because you cant deposit internationally, and there is a scorpion in your washing machine. Feeling so defeated and alone. Wanting to run from the discomfort and helplessness. But you don’t. That is strength. That is self-discovery. That is trusting and believing in yourself that you can proceed. I have learned that I am so incredibly strong. And only in that strength, have I been able to experience and realize these invaluable life lessons.

 2. Gratitude, not expectation. Before, I tried really hard to not be an expector. But now I see that I still was. I am sure I expected special treatment, expected air-conditioning, expected people to understand me, and expected road construction for the one tiny pothole on my street. Now, I am not an expector. I have seen what I have and what others don’t. I have gone without because I didn’t have the option, and I have been the outsider clawing my way out, thrown into a pen of discomfort, and learning I cannot expect a thing, not speaking the language, knowing the environment, or having anyone to rely on but myself to figure it all out. This has fueled gratitude in that, when I do get, I accept it humbly. When I am comfortable, when I am clearly understood, I want to fall to my knees in thanks and smile to the universe, so thankful for that moment of clarity to receive, rather than ever expecting it in the first place.

 3. Simplicity. Simplicity is an amazing challenge tool. Living in simplicity is a mental and physical purging agent of self-control. When you don’t have access, you don’t have access. Plain and simple. And yet somehow life is still okay. When you make the conscious choice for simplicity, you are giving yourself a gift, and taking control of your life rather than letting it continue to run away on the materialistic train. You are saying, ‘that’s enough. I want to be in charge.’ And when we do, it takes about 5 seconds to realize that it is all trappings anyway. And when we have none of it, and nothing to do, but to sit and think, reflect, and just be, we become comfortable with ourselves in the silence and simplicity, in a way we never knew. Simplicity changes lives.

 4. Patience. And how to take a backseat from control, and follow the flow. One thing about foreign travel in developing nations is this first rule of thumb. My world was rocked by this realization back in 2003 in India and now has been reinforced in 2013 in Mexico. Leave your control mechanisms at the door because it will get you nowhere. Relinquish control and tight grips on life and learn to throw it to the wind and be okay with that. Things are different and do not go as planned. And instead of getting frustrated, it is necessary to sit back helpless and let the world flow. This is a lesson for life too. We are caught up in a world of structure and order and finite decision-making and judgment. It’s crippling. Taking a deep breath and listening to our heart and inner compass, handing the reigns over and not shaking from discomfort in doing so, and learning to let go and let be, is an amazing awareness.

 5. Beauty. The world is beyond beautiful. In choosing to take time out to smell the roses, we begin to smell the roses. The piercing blue of the azul Caribbean Sea, the sound of palms swaying together, the variety of fish and natural cenotes. The way the clouds take shape and the moon eclipses the sun. The sparkling sky and sounds of the jungle. The lagoons and flowers and white sand. Walking hand in hand with my daughter at the sea, collecting water nuts for Christmas gifts back home, swimming with turtles, discovering seahorses wrapped around coral and sea plants, the mussels attached to the reef, and the sun setting across the sky, lighting the night and the calm water. And the magic that keeps it all balanced. Nature is incredibly beautiful.

 6. Friendships are the new family. Life abroad offers the opportunity to meet and engage with people from all over the world. In having no one else in the flesh, these friends become your family. Likewise do friends back home who are always on tap for an email and to remind you that you are believed in and loved. When your new friend from France, or New Zealand, is there to have a beer and share experiences, they become family. When no one else understands what you are going through, they do, because they are in the same place right now, on the same quest, miles from home, and piecing together their own adventures. With the same challenges and happinesses and lifestyle and paradise and self-discoveries. Understanding things that no one else will ever believe are even true, and grappling with the same issues of life abroad. This creates a true bonding and unforgettable friendships.

 7. Self-acceptance. We all make mistakes. And in America those are judged. Which causes us to be hard on ourselves and expect to operate in a place of perfection and no room for error. But mistakes are natural and are all moments of self-teaching. And if it weren’t for mistakes, we wouldn’t be half the people we are. So I have learned, its ok to make mistakes because I am human, humano. I now accept myself and my mistakes, and I am easy on myself. We are all on our own paths. Writing our own stories, not someone else’s. Not being who we think we should be, but being who we are. I have learned that its okay to be me, and that the things that make me me are all there for a reason. As long as we recognize and create our own paths with confidence. Owning up to our own lives, taking responsibility for failures and successes, and accepting that what makes us who we are, and being really happy with that person. Living away from it all, in a paradise setting, has given me the time to process and believe this healthy manifestation that we are on our own paths. Full of ridiculously amazing moments, but also full of imperfections. And wanting to change who we are is like dying inside. Be you. Be strong. Be brave. And be easy on yourself.

 8. Dreams can come true. And never say never. Before this adventure, I was under the impression that my life of travel and exploration ended the moment I gave birth to my daughter. After being forced to resign from my position as an expedition guide in the Himalayas after becoming pregnant, I felt like a part of me had to close up and that my adventurous life was over. But, that was all in my head. That was from a society that tells us we cant do that with children, we have to have a stable job for them, its unsafe, yada yada, rather than realizing the good it can do and the ability it has to instill such incomparable values in their amazing little hearts and minds. After feeling the burning in my soul to show her the world for 5 years, after dreaming of getting back out there, living abroad with her, sharing all of the experiences with her first-hand instead of in bedtime stories as memories of a life mommy once had before she was born, I decided to grab life by the throat and just do it. I decided that my dreams didn’t need to only be dreams because of her. But that, my dreams could now be her dreams too. And so when no one else said I could, I did. I went and lived my dream. And in doing so, I have showed her the number one rule of life: Never stop believing in your dreams. Because dreams can come true. And living life knowing that dreams can come true is the single most source of hope and purpose we can have. Everyone has a dream. No matter what it is. Do yourself a favor. Do your kids a favor. And go make it come true 🙂

Cheers

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Melissa Lapides March 28, 2014 at 10:53 pm

Thank you so much for sharing all these beautiful lessons. I am moving my family down to Mexico this summer in search of all the same lessons and in hopes to broaden their life experience. Xo

afish25 March 28, 2014 at 10:54 pm

Thanks for sharing your adventure. I’m in the process of living mine.

Patrick March 29, 2014 at 1:45 am

Thanks for the message.

Diane March 29, 2014 at 3:01 pm

So well said , My husband and l have the same feeling about Belize, The country is hard at first and after a while we learn it is just a different kind of life. We all must stop and look around and don’t forget to breath .We are from Langley B.C. Canada. Life here is very fast if you have things your in if not your friends you thought were your friends have moved on. The sad thing is most people just go with the flow and before they know it life is over. Have fun and take care.

crystal blue March 29, 2014 at 3:22 pm

thanks for reading. enjoy your adventure!

crystal blue March 29, 2014 at 3:23 pm

thank you for reading and i wish you all the safe adventure and perspective shift in the world. thank yourself, in advance, for feeding your heart and soul. 🙂

crystal blue March 29, 2014 at 3:24 pm

you’re welcome and thanks for reading.

Ashley March 29, 2014 at 5:36 pm

Thanks for sharing! I found many of the same things in my 2 years living in Mexico and I can’t wait to go back with my son – thanks for the reminder that my adventerous life did not end with giving birth

netterfield March 29, 2014 at 9:18 pm

great writing, my one year has turned into 10.

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crystal blue March 30, 2014 at 2:40 am

you are very welcome. live your dream, it is just the beginning, not the end. thank you for reading 🙂

Paul March 30, 2014 at 3:24 pm

You are an amazing, gutsy lady! Your daughter is very lucky to have you as her Mother.

John Faux March 31, 2014 at 5:18 pm

Your story reminds me of my favorite poem.. DESIDERATA.. a recipe for a good life in my mind. Thx for sharing.

crystal blue April 2, 2014 at 10:39 pm

nah… but thank you i really appreciate you reading and sharing kind words. keep in touch!

crystal blue April 2, 2014 at 10:40 pm

thank you for reading.. i am looking poem up now 🙂

amber jenkins April 16, 2014 at 1:59 am

im leaving with my two kids ages 5 & 7 to go to quintana roo mexico from albany ga to be with my husband … we are in the middle of getting him.legal to stay in the states so while thats happening ive decided to be with him and I know nothing about mexico and im very scared because iam a American and ive heard alot of horror stories … can u tell me more to help me out please…. thanks im just so nervous

crystal blue April 16, 2014 at 12:55 pm

hey amber, i am not sure the horror stories you have heard of mexico and quintana roo, but i think it is a beautiful friendly safe place. you have a lot to gain from living here for a little bit. yes it is simpler, dirtier, and much different, but these diferences offer beautiful life lessons into what is most important in life such as being outdoors, family, thr beautiful ocean, adventure, simplified living, etc. the weather is amazing and it is caribbean paradise. many people would do anything to live here so consider yourself lucky and be optimistic! your kids will love it! there is so much beautiful outdoor adventure here. cenotes, ocean, hiking, ruins, etc.. just keep an open mind, embrace the break from rat race of american society, respect the local culture and mexican way of life and standard of living, gain what you can, and embrace every moment in a positive light. best wishes and i am here for further questions if you need!

gypsyheliophiliafamily October 27, 2014 at 3:55 pm

these words are so inspiring, thank you for sharing <3

crystal blue October 29, 2014 at 6:35 am

thank you for reading and appreciating. find us on facebook! https://www.facebook.com/enlightenedglobetrekker

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